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Learning through the ‘Royal’ way!

Posted by nkashokbharan on December 28, 2010

175 years of rich and proud history our Alma Mater celebrates this year! Where rests that history? Is it the magnificent building? Is it the old proud stories? Or is it simply the survival for 175 years? No, clearly not. The Proud History of Mother Royal is her sons, great personalities; she is producing throughout the ages. If not for the ‘Great Royalists’ mother Royal produced, Royal would have been just another school which is existing for a century and a half and more.

Every school intends to nurture its pupils with the objective of producing ‘better citizens’. Every school enriches the student with knowledge, skill and discipline to succeed in life. Every school aims to mould pupil into gentlemen and gentle-ladies. If it is the same motive, aim & objective all schools share, why are they different to each other? It’s not the aim or the final destination which is important but it’s the conduit through which you choose to attain the objective which is important. Though every school aims to mould its pupils into ‘good citizens’, the paths they follow are different. Some schools follow strict academic discipline, some follow good athletic discipline, some follow certain religion based discipline and some choose a fusion of those. Royal College, being one of the pioneer educational institutions in Sri Lanka has followed a unique path to nurture young Royalists into great personalities. I shall call this the ‘Royal Way’. The ‘Royal Way’ is defined very well in the College Song by our former Principal Maj.H.L.Reed. He inscribes, ‘School where our fathers, learnt the way before us, learnt of books and learnt of men, through thee we’ll do the same. True to our watch word Disce Aut Discede, we will learn of books and men and learn to play the game’. What other ameliorated words could we find to define the ‘Royal Way’! Those words, every Royalist sings through their lusty throats, with pride from their hearts which are sound as oak, every day at school and at all august assemblies, keeps on reminding the path every Royalist should follow to conquer success!

What does the College Song enunciate? What ‘unique path’ does it elucidate? It is a common credence of every archetypal Sri Lankan family that ‘education’ is the most imperative virtue of all. Our community has always been giving very high priority and importance to education, which is very aptly reflected in our public policy of free education. But does ‘education’ limits itself to books, assignments, and exams? No says modern educationalists. 21st century educationalists clearly deny such stereo type ideologies. If education is to provide a foundation for life, then it cannot limit itself to books. It was very later; perhaps after 1980s these modern thoughts started influencing the Sri Lankan educational system. But in 1930s itself Royal College introduced this ‘modern’ thought into practice. To nurture a person, books alone are insufficient. Thus the College Song says ‘we will learn of book and men and learn to play the game’. If the education we receive cannot support our future life and provide as with a foundation to success, what use that education shall be? We might have read a thousand books, might have memorized a thousand theories, what use will it be if we cannot move with this society? We might proudly hold first class degrees perhaps a PhD too, but what will all those credits count for if we cannot compete in this society? So, it is very obvious that just books, just only books will not help to nurture a ‘complete’ man. It’s a part of education; perhaps an important part but only books don’t formulate complete education. Once Winston Churchill said in a sense of satire, “My education was interrupted only by my schooling”, I’m sure had he studied at Royal College he would not have said that. I’m not vaunting, neither do I intend to but I feel that what the typical school education is lacking and making it boring, that fissure is very well closed at Royal College. Royal does not only nourish knowledge from books but also gives opportunity to learn about men (people and society) and to learn the game (not only the sporting games but also the game of life). To elaborate on that, Today Royal College has more than fifty active clubs and societies, most of them have a rich history of more than 50 years. Every club and society activity is enriched with great life experience. Every time a student involves in a society or club activity he gains immense and valuable experience which no books could provide him. In working with his colleagues, who may share different opinions, he learns the diversities in society and he trains himself to survive in this society or in a better sense succeed in this society. Royal also provides many sporting facilities, comprising of more than 20 sports including the most famous Cricket and Rugby, sporting is a passionate tradition at Royal. These co-curricular and extra-curricular activities supplemented to Books, Research and Traditional Education, Royal doesn’t only produce good citizens but more than that great leaders to this society. This is the secret of success of Royal; this is the ‘Royal Way’ of approaching education.

Royal has always remained a ‘public school’, a school which is common for all ethnicities, races, classes and religions without any prejudice or discrimination. This does not mean there are no religious practices at Royal. All religions of Sri Lanka are proudly practiced and preached in Royal with harmony, because Royal appreciates the need of religions to cherish the values of pupils but Royal College doesn’t limit itself to any single religion but merrily accommodates all beliefs! This is another colossal reason why Royal has produced ‘complete men’ and ‘better Sri Lankans’.

May this ‘Royal Way’ enlighten many more Sri Lankans and be perpetual!



This piece of writing was published in the Souvenir of the Inaugural Clubs & Societies Felicitation Ceremony of Royal College. (2010)



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Ragging in Universities and the Prohibition of Ragging and Other Forms of Violence in Educational Institutions Act, No.20 of 1998

Posted by nkashokbharan on May 5, 2010

Ragging is a form of abuse on newcomers to educational institutions in India and Sri Lanka. It is similar to the American phenomenon known as hazing. Hazing is a term used to describe various ritual and other activities involving harassment, abuse or humiliation used as a way of initiating a person into a group. Currently, Sri Lanka is said to be its worst affected country in the world. There is no record to prove such an act has prevailed in the ancient Sri Lankan educational but It was in the post World War II era, a concept called ‘ragging’ came into existence. Ragging is not an indigenous phenomenon, but a direct result of the British colonialism in Sri Lanka. Soldiers returning from war re-entered the college and brought with them the technique of ragging learned in military camp which were used to make individual fail as an individual and succeed as a team. But eventually when lesser number of military persons entered the universities, ragging lost in primary objectives and became a violent and hazardous exercise and to the worst extreme ended up in murders.

Though ragging remained without any outside speculation for many decades it was in 1975 the first serious Ragging incident took place in the University of Peradeniya – Ramanathan Hall. A 22 year old student of the Faculty of Agriculture, Rupa Rathnaseeli became paralyzed as a result of having jumped from the second floor of the hostel Ramanathan to escape the physical ragging being carried out by the seniors. She later committed suicide in 1997. Then another horrendous ragging murder occurred in the same year 1997 when 21 year old S. Varapragash, an Engineering student of University of Peradeniya, died from a kidney failure following severe ragging by senior students – this is the point when the public and the government understood the seriousness of this so called ‘culture’ of local universities. Being a civilized nation for many centuries even before the birth of Christ yet it is very pity to note that the ‘cream’ of students in this nation are involved in the sinful barbarian act of Ragging. It did not stop with Varapragash, A girl, also a first year student – in the University of Ruhuna committed suicide in 1997 as she was unable to bear ragging by her senior students. Then another murder, Kelum Thushara Wijetunge, a first year student at the Hardy Technical Institute in Ampara, died in 1997, from a kidney failure after he was forced to do some tough exercises and drink excessive quantities of liquor as a part of ragging. 3 brutal deaths due to ragging in the same year did not only raise the voice of public against ragging but also forced the government to enact legislations to prevent Ragging.

In 1998 the Parliament of Sri Lanka unanimously passed the ‘Prohibition of Ragging and Other Forms of Violence in Educational Institutions Act, No. 20 of 1998’ (the Anti-Ragging act) – the first legal enactment of Sri Lanka on Ragging.  As specified in the detailed note of the Act, it is identified as an Act to eliminate ragging and other forms of violent and cruel inhuman and degrading treatment from educational institutions.

In terms of the Act, ragging means ‘any act which causes or is likely to cause physical or psychological injury or mental pain or fear to a student or a member of the staff of an educational institution’.

The Act specifies the relevant Higher Educational Institutions coming under the Act and that includes all the Higher Educational Institutions established under the Universities Act No. 16 of 1978.

Provisions of the Act are as follows:

* Any person who commits or participates in ragging within or outside the Educational Institution, shall be guilty of an offence under this Act and on conviction after summary trial be liable for a term not exceeding two years.

* The victim shall be paid a compensation of an amount determined by court in respect of the injuries caused to such person.

* If a sexual harassment or grievous hurt is caused whilst committing ragging the person is liable to imprisonment for a term not exceeding 10 years on conviction after a summary trial. In addition he may also be ordered to pay a compensation of an amount determined by Court to the victim.

* If the victim is threatened to cause injury to the person, reputation or property of some other person of whom the victim is interested, with the intention of causing fear in the victim or compelling the victim to do any act which the victim is not legally required to do, or to omit to do any act which the victim is entitled to do, shall be guilty of an offence and on conviction be liable for rigorous imprisonment for a term not exceeding five years.

* Any person restricting the personal liberty and the freedom of movement of any other person shall be guilty of an offence and be liable to rigorous imprisonment for a term not exceeding seven years.

*Any person unlawfully obstructing the right to proceed in any direction of another person shall be liable to the above mentioned punishment.

* Any person unlawfully restricting the other person from proceeding beyond certain circumscribing limits can be punished as stated above.

* Any person occupying premises of an Educational Institution by force without a lawful excuse or causing damage to any such property shall be on conviction after a summary trial and can be imprisoned for terms not exceeding 10 years and 20 years respectively and shall be liable to a fine as stated in the Act.

In addition to the above mentioned punishments the convict can be expelled from the institution by the Court. (Article 8)

A special provision of the Act is that, if a person suspected or accused of committing an offence of sexual harassment or causing a serious injury whilst ragging in terms of Section 2 of Subsection (2) of the Act in an Educational Institution, he/she shall not be released on bail expect by the High Court.

The provisions of this Act shall be made effective in addition to the provisions of the Penal Code and the Convention against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment Act No. 22 of 1994.

The above mentioned provisions clearly explain that convicts are subjugated to severe legal constraints. It is evident that the main intention of laying down restrictions over the act of bailing out is to ban inhuman acts from Educational Institutions.

This statute clearly shows the government’s obejctive to totally evacuate this inhuman and barbarian act of Ragging from the Sri Lankan educational institutions. It is notable that the act does not only apply for the students but also to the staff of the educational institutions (as prosecutes or plaintiffs). It is not a hidden secret that these brutal acts by students are at times supported by some staff in many ways – the worst support is ‘ignorance’. Though the Higher education institution has the right to take severe actions against these brutal acts, until this Act No.20 of 1998 was enacted none of the university authorities took any strong action against the students and others who are involved in Ragging.

The Prohibition of Ragging and other forms of violence in Educational Institutions Act, No,20 of 1998 – a very compact but clearly drafted legislation with 17 articles explains the definition of ragging, forms of ragging and applicable penalties, legal procedures and Interpretation of terms. It was believed that after 3 brutal murders in the year of 1997 and then the Anti-Ragging enactment in 1998 the disease of ragging has been evacuated from Sri Lanka, and no other severe cases were reported in the next 3 years but in 2002 another horrendous murder occurred. Samantha Vithanage, a third year Management student at the University of Sri Jayewardenepura, pioneered an anti-ragging campaign was killed at a meeting while in a discussion about ragging. Even after a very strong Anti-Ragging act enacted – another murder and of course a murder of an anti-ragger definitely shook the country. Though the then government claimed that there was Political involvement of JVP is the murder of Vithanage the University student body declined the claims.

Now in 2010 – myself in a University, I shall not fool myself by saying there isn’t any ragging in University. I have seen the brutality but never experienced since I remain an Anti-Ragger. It is clear to all that Ragging is still a strong practice at these government educational institutions, despite the Act No.20 of 1998 with an objective to ban Ragging is implemented. This is where people start thinking about the failure of Law. There is a Law against ragging but ragging is still in practice – so it shows that a Law doesn’t change the society in a whole, this causes disbelief and unfaith in Laws.


At contemporary Laws are enacted by the Parliament. Parliament being the representation of the Majority of the country, the Laws passed by the Parliament is considered to be the wish if the majority, yet it cannot be assured that all citizens will be happy about each and every statute passed by the Parliament. The Anti-ragging statute was passed unanimously by the Parliament without any objections; still most of the Sri Lankan university students were not happy or content about legislation. There were comments saying that the government is trying to poke into the educational institutions and influence the students. Some even said the government is limiting the freedom of the students and denying their rights thus it is not just.

It is a common belief by the raggers that ragging is a way to build up strong bond among the students and also play a major role in Personality building. How pity this thought is. The ‘freshers’ are brainwashed with sweet words like above said and forced into ragging. The logic is by some means the innocent students fall into the trap made with those sweet words and suffer by the brutal acts of ragging. The pro-ragging community believes that this is a unique culture / custom belongs to them and it is their right to practice that and it is just to involve in ragging.

Though the legislation says committing or participating in any form of ragging is a punishable act, The pro-raggers doesn’t accept the legislation. They consider it unfair because they have their own belief on ragging – which as mentioned above they think it is a unique custom of them to enrich the bond among the batches of students. So unless this mind set or thinking pattern is changed the implementation of the Anti-Ragging statue will not succeed.

The statute clearly defines the offence and the punishments accordingly, but in my opinion it has failed in analyzing the background of these violence acts and did not concentrate on terminating those or finding a remedy to the fundamental aspects which are the foundations for ragging. Though we see the senior students ragging the new comers, not all seniors get involved in this and on the other hand it is not an act of instinct, it is a well planned and organized act which is most commonly organized by the so called ‘Student Unions’. Mathuranga Kalugampitiya – a lecturer at the Arts Faculty of the Peradeniya University in his article on ragging “Who will guard the guard?” published in the Sunday Observer states “The fact that the representatives of the student bodies that keep this “initiation” process live and kicking first openly and voluntarily commit themselves to the cause of eradicating ragging from the university context and then openly negate their commitment by getting actively involved in ragging the freshers indicates the unregulated autonomy that these student bodies enjoy.” It is no more a secret that these student bodies are the back bone for such cruel activities. But according to the provisions made under Part XIV of the Universities Act, No. 16 of 1978 on establishing Student Unions and other Association says:

* Section 112:-

1. Each Higher Educational Institution shall have a University Student Union.

2. Each Faculty of the Higher Educational Institution shall have a Faculty Student Union.

3. Selection of office bearers of these Unions and their activities should be defined by the Councils of the respective Higher Educational Institutions through by-laws.

* Section 115: Any Higher Educational Institution may recognize any Union, society or other associations of students of that Institution for the purpose of furthering academic or social objectives, provided that the membership of such union, society or other association consists entirely of students of that Institution.

* Section 118: If any union or society to other association of a Higher Educational Institution conducts itself in a manner, which, in the opinion of the principal executive officer of that Institution, obstructs the proper administration of that Institution, or acts in contravention of the Universities Act or any other union, such principal executive officer may suspend or dissolve such union, society or other association, as the case may be.

* Accordingly, it is emphasised that the students of the Higher Educational Institutions are authorized to establish only the following unions/societies and other associations:

1. University Students Union,

2. Faculty Students Unions and

3. Societies formed for the sole purpose of furthering academic or social objectives as stated in Section 115 of the Act.

* Any person manipulating students in the guise of Student Unions or disturbing the Management of the Higher Educational Institutions/Institutes or obstructing the education of same are liable to be severely punished under the prevailing civil law and the by-laws of the Higher Educational Institutions.

* Finally, the students are warned that they should not use the above unions/associations to achieve political objectives.

Though it says that the Student Unions should act in proper manner and should not obstruct the proper administration and the educational institution authorities have the right to suspend or dissolve the union, in practice things are different. Most of the strikes and all menace are created by these student unions, and though political objectives are banned yet we could clearly see political influences in these unions. On the other hand though the authorities have the right to suspend or dissolve such problematic unions, they hesitate to do so. Nishika Fonseka a journalist at Ground Views states in her article on ragging “The administration at the Colombo Arts faculty, for their part, seems to be willing to control the rag. “The lecturers gave us their numbers and told us to call them if we get ragged or see anyone getting ragged,” said Malini. However, she went on to say that many lecturers seem reluctant to be identified as being anti-ragging. “The lecturers don’t come while the rag is happening,” she said, “they only come afterwards.” One wonders about the wisdom in that.” The power of these student unions and their political involvements can be a major factor why the authorities are hesitant to take action against them. So when the authorities aren’t much worried about these horrendous activities then their authority is questionable and it isn’t just for them to have this authority in hand.


On the other hand, even at a point where the authorities are prepared to take an action, the students who get ragged aren’t prepared. This is because of either fear or acceptance of such activity. Fear is due to the power of the student union and they feel that they might get affected by complaining to the authorities and also after hearing stories on many hesitant authorities the students are not sure about whether an action would be taken against the raggers. Acceptance is mainly due to the brain washing sweet words told by the so called raggers. In Nishika’s article she states an ex.University student’s opinion on ragging. “In Michael’s opinion, ragging is a complex class issue. He identifies those who protest against it as belonging to the middle or upper-middle classes in society and sees those who practice it as coming from the poorer strata of society. The hue and cry over ragging, he says, is a reflection of the intolerance of the rich about being dictated to by people they look down on. He argues that far from the raggers suffering from an inferiority complex, the complainers instead, suffer from a superiority complex, and he sees those who quit University due to ragging as those who can afford alternate forms of higher education either abroad or in private institutions.” This shows how these innocent fresh minds are screwed through and the poison is poured in depth. They misinterpret the term ‘equality’ and assume that ragging is a method to influence equality in to a batch of students who come from various backgrounds.  Equality does not mean you treat all equal – which cannot be practically implemented at any given point. In fact it was those myth-full words of Marx which was a starting point to this abnormal way of creating ‘equality’. In the name of creating ‘equality’ they demolish justice, they bury liberty and rights, they kill morality but ultimately it is only a fake delusionary equality which will prevail after such cruel acts.

The government should have concentrated in educating and enlightening the young minds with right policies and show the fakeness of this ‘forced equality’ before enacting anti-ragging statutes. Because a Law will never achieve its objective, unless the people are prepared to accept it. If the students are in a different frame of mind and they do not accept the just in this anti-ragging act or they consider it unjust for them then it is not going to work. We could clearly see that, whenever a student is arrested under prosecuted under the anti-ragging act, we could see numerous strikes happening at the universities pioneered by student unions, and they call that the arrest was ‘unjust’! If this is the case, and no visible change has took place then there is problem about the influence of the law in this society and to rebuild or reconstruct the influence a social engineering process is essential. Apart from defining the offence and dictating the penalties via a statute the government must involve in educating the society with necessary knowledge and design their mind in accordance to accept the statute.


Sri Lanka is a very cultured and conservative country. More than Laws the religious and divine practices are strictly followed in Sri Lanka, yet the immoral and. Horrendous conduct of ragging prevails among the students and most of them never understand the seriousness and immorality of ragging. Generally torturing mentally or physically is considered a worse sin in all religions of the country and it is also considered to be immoral but the act ragging still stays firm at the educational institutions, there are strong proofs that even the religious priests get involved in such activities. Law generally considers the moral part in deciding a case and the Anti-Ragging act was passed in the parliament unanimously not just because it was Just but also considering its moral rightness. It is very well known fact that in Sri Lankans respect education a lot, being a student at a government educational institution in Sri Lanka is very highly respected but that should not be misused by the students. I doubt why the government gives such exceptional priorities for these students. It would cost more penalty if such cruel activities are prosecuted and the penal code, but under the tag “Student” these horrendous activists somehow get excused. Despite 3 murders and a suicide occurred non of the students responsible were offered with sufficient punishment, which has given more guts to other students who engage in ragging. It sad to see that the sympathetic hearts of Sri Lankan educational authorities show a soft corner for these cruel activists and they offer statement at courts enforcing the ‘education right’ of the raggers and help them to get excused. Yes, a person should get the right to education, but a university student isn’t a baby or a minor. He is generally mature enough to take decisions by himself and if he involves in any sort of illegal activity there should not be given any consideration about his studentship, he can be prosecuted under the penal code. In fact I personally feel that this is more just & equal than prosecuting under the Anti-ragging act.

In conclusion, Though there is a “Prohibition of Ragging and Other Forms of Violence in Educational Institutions Act, No. 20 of 1998” it seems that the influence of it in the student society is not sufficient to control the cruel act of ragging. Though the common man would consider the act to be just at contemporary the student community, especially the unions consider it to be unfair against the students. For the act to be successfully implemented there is a need for the government to involve in social engineering process and enlighten the citizens with the knowledge on justice, fairness, liberty, human rights, morality and equality – because these ideologies are mostly  misinterpreted. If this Social Engineering process is not going to take place it is definite that the Anti-Ragging act will be only a black letter law and will not achieve its’ objective of eradicating the inhuman act of Ragging from the Educational Institutions of this country.


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Kalugampitiya, Mathuranga. ‘Who Will Guard the Guards?’. Sunday Observer, 4 Oct 2009, Pg 20.

Fonseka, Nishika. ‘Ragging In Our Universities: A Symptom Or A Disease?’. Ground Views. <http://www.groundviews.org/2009/11/30/ragging-in-our-universities-a-symptom-or-a-disease/&gt;

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The answer from Steve Waugh…

Posted by nkashokbharan on June 22, 2009

Steve WaughToday I had an exciting opportunity to ask a question from the great cricketer and an inspirational ex. captain of the kangaroos Steve Waugh. Today the Australian College of business & Technology along with Royal College organized a leadership training programme at the ‘Navarangahala’ of Royal College. He made a great speech on his experience as the captain of the Aussies and shared thoughts on leadership.

In the Q&A time, I got an opportunity to ask a question and the answer he gave was very interesting. I asked him “As a captain & a leader have you ever felt frustrated?” And what he said was “Frustration is common when you are a leader and it will be with you always. Because when you are a leader you are under pressure always. At times you may need to take hard decisions for the betterment of your institution. For example I had to take a very tough decision as a Captain of Australia to drop my Vice Captain & the famous bowler Shane Warne – because he was not fully cured after a shoulder injury. Though it was a tough decision and a frustrating one I had to do it for the best to my institution – the Australian cricket team. So it is natural for a leader to be frustrated at times”

(These aren’t the exact words used by Steve Waugh, but an extract from my memory on my wording)

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Royal thrash off the wooden kings!

Posted by nkashokbharan on June 22, 2009

A beautiful Sunday evening (21st June 2009) the most expected school rugby encounter of the season and a great top table clash between Royal College & Kingswood College. The game kicked off at around 4.30 p.m. at the Royal College Sports Complex, Colombo. All spectators were very enthusiastic to see a great rough game and truly the game was very aggressive and a rough one. The first yellow card came out immediately just after 3 minutes of play to Kingswood’s center Weeresekara for his aggressive & rough game. But it did not stop the aggressive play. It was the Kings who placed their score first on the board with a great try and then a great conversion. Then the war heated up and the Royals were fighting their way to touch the line and it was not an easy attempt to succeed. The Kings’ defense was tight and at last after many attempts No.13 Duminda Attygalle touched it for Royal and Mushin converted it with a great kick. The scores were tie now and then with a penalty awarded it was Mushin Faleel who gave the lead with a penalty goal.

Hasthika in action for Royal!

Then it was No.9 Aqeel Sathuk who scored the next try for Royal – the ‘Little Talented Star’ of Royal did not have time to celebrate, because he was shown a  yellow card for a very rough behavior at the try line, yet his scoring gave some time for Royal to breath. Mushin converted that try also with his experienced boot. Now the shocking time comes when the Kingswood skipper breaks out to keep a great try which was beautifully converted and the Score tally became 17 : 14 at half time.

The second half was jubilant for Royalists but not without the hard work. It was the Royal Flanker Hasthika Bandaranayake who touched down and then another conversion from Mushin to make the scores tally at 24 : 14. Then came a penalty for Kingswood and Royal’s Ranga Perera was shown a  yellow card just within seconds after Aqeel Sathuk returned from the sin bin. The penalty was cleverly taken by the Kings to add 3 more points to their score. Then comes the hot scene when the Kings’ Center Weeresekara was penalized again and gained a red card and was sent off. The poorly performed Royals’ Shailendra Chandresegar was replaced with Nabil Faizer. Here started a new game for Royal – Nabil Faizer scored the try and unfortunately Mushin missed the conversion.

Naren scores a Jubiliant try!Then it was a great run by Chamara Dabare from Royal’s half to the other and his pass to the Royal skipper Naren Dhason made an easy try for Royal. Naren scored the try without any defensive problems from Kingswood and followed a conversion from Mushin. The last try of the game came from Royal winger Shamil Ahamed and again converted by Mushin Faleel. That was the end of the game and the score tally ended up with 43 : 17.

royal kingswood final scoreA great Royal victory! And I should mention the extra ordinary talent, skill and team work presented by Royal throughout this season which achieved them an unbeaten, victorious season so far and two games to go.

I really enjoyed the game and it was  a memorable one too. I wish to congratulate Naren & his team – who proved it tough for anyone to beat Royal!

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Solving Problems

Posted by nkashokbharan on June 18, 2009

Problems are part of life. Each & every human being (or may be living being) is facing problems every moment. If anyone say I am living without problems – that means he is lying or not really living a  life. Problems very commonly occur. From small issues to major conflicts problems take different avatars and coem with different masks.

Get together : resolve conflictsBasic reason for a conflict or a  problem is mis understanding or not understanding. If all of us understand & respect each other then problems won’t occur but it is not practical. For many reasons & in many situations we don’t undertsand others or don’t want to understand others or simply mis understand others – all of themwhich cause conflicts & issues. For the people who don’t understand, we can try different ways to make them understand and solve the issue. For the people who mis-understood a  thing, we can point out their mis belief and make them understand. But the toughest part is with the people with the attitude of ‘I don’t want to understand’ your problem. These type of characters really don’t bother to understand others’ problems, because simply they are of the point that they don’t care about that all or they care only about themselves and stay self-centered.

Handling problems with those characters are hard yet the world had proved it possible – because we also should understand the reason why they are not prepared to understand your problem. If we understand that, then by finding a way to convince them will work. So the first step is we should listen and understand why they are not bothered about others’ concerns and enlighten them with the necessary facts, because they may have  a strong reason for doing that. Then slowly we have to make them understand our problem and then when they understand – 90% of the problem is solved.

90% of Conflict Resolution is depended on ‘understanding’ – If no understanding then no conflict resolution. The world should know by now that conflicts & problems cannot be solved  by violance or  dictatorship. Violance can be a  temporary solution but it has proved a failure in the longer run.

Thus, if you ahve a  problem – talk out and solve it and don;t forget to understand the other side also!

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Narcissistic & showing off people

Posted by nkashokbharan on June 17, 2009

We meet millions of people in our life – all of different sorts and kinds yet among them I saw a very small set of similar people who were loathsome because they are very much showing off and have the attitude ‘it’s all about ME’.

Narcisstic & EgoistWell, showing off or publicising yourself is not wrong – but we should make sure that we do it in the right way. These showing off people I talk of aren’t those people do good things nor work hard for credits, These are the people who work with their mouth for the most to full fill their own wills & aspirations and do nothing to others nor the society! They are absolute narcissist and never ever have anything useful to give except problems. Because of their self-centered motives they try to full fill their own wills, thus if anything goes wrong about their aspirations they cause immense trouble.

We should be very much warned about these characters, because they may look like good friends but highly poisoned inside and can transform into your major enemy when they fail to achieve what they want. Basically these people are very showing off type and egoist, because they feel that showing off is the easiest way to gain speculation and then support. They even show off all small things they do & have and try to convince others to support them in achieving their self-centered aims and after coming to heights using others they demean others and prove their egoism.

Working with them can be sweet in short time – until they come to good position but after that it will be more bitter that even the dreams of those sweet moments will also transform into nightmares.


P.S. : This post is not on any accusations towards anyone but a  general idea.

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Italy – a dreamland….!

Posted by nkashokbharan on December 27, 2008

flag of italiaThough my purpose of travel was to attend the World School Forum, I had a nice visit around Italy which was amazing and truly exciting. I used to wonder why William Shakespeare has used many Italian cities in his plays, I used to wonder what made that brilliant play-write to chose the Italian cities when there were many others, but ultimately this around Italy in 4 days made me understand why.

The conference was in Busto Arsizio – it was near Milano (Milan) or in Milano (I am confused), Milano as we have heard is a city of fashion, I saw thousands and thousands of fashion stores though most of them were above the capacity of my pocket to pay! ;-). It is a very nice city and very modern in comparison to other sites in Italy. Apart from the Milano city we went on a field trip to Stresa lake in Verbania, what a place that was, the beauty of the lake and surroundings were amazing, no words to explain (may be because I am not Shakespeare).
From Milano my first take off (not really by plane but by train!) was to Veniezia (Venice) – I used to wonder how a city can be in middle of water, I mean without roads but water as alternate. Oh! It was very beautiful or think of a word which is more than beautiful. It is a wonderland, a floating city, It was really exciting to travel around venice for 45 minutes. Buses were boats, Police vehicles were boats, ambulances were boats every thing to travel were boats…. boats everywhere in different sizes and styles, especially the traditional Gondola boats – now only used for tourists looks amazing! The buildings and structures we very exciting and mind blowing, especially the traditional masks were wonderful!
From Venice the next destination was Firenze (Florence) – it was night when we reached Florence and Florence at night was so beautiful. The city was like an Angel with stars glooming in night. It was really gorgeous. The amazing structures and buildings were so beautiful and in night they were glooming in light. Especially the Ponte Vecchio – The Bridge over the river was glooming in lights! I was really amazed to see the huge buildings, churches, palace and bridges! Great city, very ancient looking!
Then after the night stay at Firenze the next travel was to Pisa. Pisa – we remember the leaning tower of Pisa when hearing it! Yes! a wonderful city in Tuscany. The main attraction in Pisa is the Piazza Dei Miracoli – it is the cathedral with the leaning bell tower and the baptistery. The leaning tower was beautiful, though it was under renovation at the time I visited. The Cathedral was very beautiful. I was happy that I saw a World Wonder through my eyes – DIRECTLY!
Next was the ultimate destination – ROMA (Rome)! Very ancient, majestic city it is! We travelled around by the sightseeing bus service for tourists. What would be the main attraction – obviously it was one of the World Wonders – THE COLOSSEUM! Since the roads to the Colosseum were under renovation it was a fifteen minutes walk for me to the Colosseum, it was Majestic! What a structure it is! Then visited a few more sites like the Pantheon, Forum Romanum, Vittorio Emanuele Monument had a view of the Roma Castle and traveled through the roads of Rome to see the exciting ancient architecture and last but not least had a look at the Vatican City too, though didn’t have a walk around!
All these just in 4 Days! – including travelling back to Milano from Rome to catch the flight to Sri Lanka – was really hurrying.
I wish I had more time in Italy – but pledged to visit Italy again one day to enjoy the beauty totally – without a hurry!

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World School Forum 2008 – Italy

Posted by nkashokbharan on December 27, 2008

WSF’ 08!

What a wonderful experience it was! Still the feel is not dead… still the passion is not gone, Oh! What an experience was that!

[pic : the wsf’08]
World School Forum 2008 at Busto Arsizio, Italy! I was one of the 4 member delegates from Sri Lanka representating Royal College. There were totally 21 delegation groups from 21 schools in 21 different countries. It wasn’t actually like a conference but a REAL WORLD SCHOOL! – a school of students from all over the world.
The main topics for discussion & debates were
Food Miles
GMOs (Genetically Modified Organisms) &
Human Water Use.
Under the theme ‘Where We Stand Together’ the Forum started with joyful faces. It was really exciting to meet different people from different parts of the world, speaking different languages & with different traditions & culture, yet ‘We Stand Together’!!!
Though we discussed, analyzed and debated on very serious issues, there was no limit for fun also, all enjoyed for the maximum! We went on small trips, sight seeing, time spending, and even visited malls, enjoyed in pubs (oops! not liqour though….), went bowling, visited factories and even played a number of fun games. Seriously it was serious yet with fun!
[pic : joy filled faces]
In the start we had introduction presentations, those are to introduce our country and school, It was great I got to know a bit deeper & closer about various countries and culture.
[pic : at the intro presentation]
Then the exhibition stalls were also amazing, It was really a great experience, we shared something about our countries and schools in that exhibition.
[pic : at our exhibition stall]
Visiting the Mayor of Busto Arsizio was exciting, He was very friendly and funny, I never expected the mayor to be so friendly with everyone!
[pic : with the mayor]
The highlight of the forum is the 4 day home stay. Each of us stay in one of our host’s house. That was a great experience. Well my Host was the president of the student community of the Italian host school ITC Enrico Tosi. Gianluca – (my friend now!) he was my host, I stayed at his house, wow it was a great experience, because except for Gianluca, his elder brother Franceso and his girlfriend no one else in that house knows English, and my Italian was limited to few words like Ciao, Grazie, Prego, Scouza, Come stai?, bene, & molto bella. Anyways it was interesting, I managed with actions, signals, and at times with a smile! 🙂
Now the main part of the forum – the debates & discussion, It was exciting, I chose the topic ‘Human Water Use’ and for some good luck the Region of Lombardia (It is one of the states of Italy) Council chose our topic to be debated in the council room! Because they were also debating on the same issue in the council and they wanted to know different views. I was debating on Supporting Water Privatization! – and luckily or may be due to my Economical perspective debate the jury pannel which included the Chairman (Chief Minister) of Lombardia Region and some members of the council and a Director from the UN’s FAO appreciated my speech and gave an extra credit to that, for which I am always thankful to them.!
[pic : at the debate at the council room ]
But after the strong debates and discussions, what we understood is massive and hard to explain, because apart from the facts and points, what we have learnt is rather a feeling than theories. Theories are put up everywhere, but how many of us have the feel to implement them or atleast follow them? – this is the question arose in me after the debates, though I won the spell battle with logic and theories, what is the ultimate sollution available unless there is a practical action taken up?
It was exciting, and useful also, I was atleast enlightened about how the world is and where am I…. and also gave me the wisdom to think about the World before thinking about yourself.
It is an unforgetable experience. I would like to be there once again, but I know I will not have the same again. But what ever I have learnt from there is unforgetable for the whole of my life!
Atlast the final farewell dinner – a dinner with tears, because we didn’t move around with each other like delegates or representatives from different countries but we were like best friends and even more like a family! – The farewell was hard… too hard!
I think everyone should have such an experience in life – because ‘life is short – live it’!

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Posted by nkashokbharan on May 2, 2008

Grand Master – if u think of a chess champion then you are wrong!
I am talking about an intellectual Quiz master……… yes the Wisdom Gem of India
I was proud to get an opportunity to participate in one of his quiz shows “Shakthi Grand Master”! He is a very decent person, with a kind tougne! I was amazed to see him find all the personalities & places we think within just 21 questions! What a brilliance! & with such talent he is very kind and encouraging! He is not big headed (though he has all rights to be)!
Its very rare to meet people like him!

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